Who Am I?

This website has been written from my experience.

I share my own stories and experiences of a dramatic mid-life-change in love, work and family.

Going through the elongated stages of a divorce was a brutal experience. Looking back, I concede that I did not cope as well as I would have liked. It was an experience I would never want to repeat; but there is a part of me that is pleased I did…

“You need to spend time crawling alone through shadows to truly appreciate what it is to stand in the sun.”

– Shaun Hick

I came out the other side a better person and appreciative of the freedom I now enjoy. Looking back it is incredible to think that the darkest time of my life was in fact the catalyst for the best times of my life. I want to share with others what I learned. Enlightenment and truth allowed me to accept responsibility for forging a better life.

The common thread in this website is to appeal to those men that have unexpectedly became single at the mid-point of their lives. It is also appreciated that there are many men feeling alone in a relationship with a woman that has long ceased giving the respect and support you deserve.

While the website is titled ‘Over 40 Single Man’ please do not take the 40 + age as an absolute. For younger readers, please allow some wriggle room as much of the content will apply to you.

After going through the stress and anxiety of separation, I have taken back control of my life. There has been a transition from being defined by a marriage to becoming true to oneself by setting new rules and boundaries. I am finally free to take responsibility and not allow myself to be schooled and held-back by others.

I hope this website will challenge, inspire and vindicate men that choose a lifestyle of responsibility, self-fulfillment and enjoyment … with a bit of hedonism thrown in along the way 🙂